Musing why negative thinking is so prevalent.  What makes us put the brakes on life?  Why does it seem so natural to “think negative” about people, events, just about anything ‘out there’?

I wonder.. could it be those first voices we heard..when we were tots venturing towards something new, something attractive, and fun?  No! Don’t touch.  No.  Don’t pick that up, its nasty.  We all know the drill.  All in the name of “protecting us”.  Only it didn’t stop at the age of 2, did it?  For many it continues through high school and college in some shape or fashion.  For some, it continues throughout life.  Unless you stop it.  Now!

I wonder..if in the ‘training up of children in the way they should go” if you combined the negative ‘voice’ with ‘removing consequences’.  What then?  Scold the child for bad behavior then take away the opportunity to learn good behavior.

Got that!  Makes perfectly good sense to the control agent, doesn’t.  Done your duty to correct; gotten the desired result by doing it yourself.

To the child?  It’s craziness personified.  Not only is the negative reinforced, the ‘path to learning’ is blocked by others.  Frustration, anger, denial, deviousness…all those negatives creep into the child’s awareness and emotions.  Repeated over and over, a person can really screw himself from living his authentic life.  He’s stuck on first base wondering how he is going to get home.  He doesn’t know the way.

Unless he goes back to that place of denial.  That place of pain and feeling lost and abandoned.  That sense of self, the real self, awaits those who seek the inside passage to freedom.  Go back…love and hug yourself for what you misunderstood or had taken away from you.  When you do, you will release the fences..the walls that separate you from living in freedom.  Denial will no longer be your companion.  Truth will become your lengthening shadow.

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Perhaps they are.  Motivation is (or could be) a fleeting glimpse of an imagined desire coupled with fear or love as a causative agent.  Insight is an awareness of past thinking that suddenly appears.

Are either of these words change agents?  We think they are.  We say, “I need to get motivated NOW!”  Or, “I’ve got to get a handle on it!” .  Nice ideas; both statements are reflections of conscious thought that suggests intended action.  But that’s all they are.  Intentions!… you know, the road that we so often pave with wishes and desires.

When we make these ‘suggestions’ we mistakenly hold the belief that our thinking will necessarily create the condition for change…”I think, therefore I’m now motivated.”  Has change occurred?  No!  And it’s not going to occur if something else doesn’t happen.

Just Do It!  Nike said it best.  Start by doing… the ‘next thing’, whatever that may be.  Whatever needs doing.  Whatever you want, desire, or change…just begin.  Taking action changes things.  Taking action in ways that run counter to your normal ways of doing things will produce positive results.  Call it ‘getting out of your comfort zone’, ‘pushing the envelope’,…whatever.  Taking action creates change.

If you and I wait for inspiration or motivation to always, “prime the pump of change”, we will, most often, be pumping a dry well.  Taking action is the best way to “prime our pump”.